How early can we arrive the day of the wedding?
The room will be ready one hour before the ceremony. For most wedding packages, that is 1:00. For the larger, three hour packages, it is noon. Brides usually arrive with hair and make up done and only use the room to slip on their dress and wait until it is time to make her entrance. We ask that wedding guests do not arrive prior to 20-30 minutes before the ceremony so that we can most efficiently prepare and set up for the wedding. Most likely we will have served breakfast that morning to Inn guests and must clean that up before we set up, so we are usually too busy before the ceremony to chat.
What if we have scheduled an outdoor wedding and it rains?
In the case of poor weather, we are able set up inside for up to 20 guests. If you have a package with more than 20 guests, the wedding and reception will still be held outside under a canopy and in the wedding tent. And remember, it's San Antonio - it rarely rains!
Can we bring our own minister?
Yes. Please let us know in advance that you will have your own officiant.
Is the room included in the wedding package?
Most of our weddings include the Once Upon a Dream room for preparation and the couple may stay the night in that room, if they wish.
Can we have a bridesmaid and best man?
Yes. We can easily accommodate a bridesmaid and a best man for all packages; even another bridesmaid and a groomsman are easily accommodated in indoor weddings. Outside there is enough space for up to four on each side. Please note that bridesmaids and groomsmen count as part of the total number of wedding party guests.
Can we have a flower girl/ring bearer?
Yes. If bringing rose petals, please use silk, rather than real ones for indoor weddings for the protection of the inlaid hardwood floor. We have basic colors in stock here that the flower girl can use as well. For outside weddings, we use real petals.
Who seats the moms?
Due to the fact that we often have military or destination weddings, where both sides of the family are not always able to be represented, we take a more relaxed approach and generally don't make a fuss over the seating. Guests generally sit where they want as long as they keep places open in front for the parents. If you would like to formally seat the moms, please let us know in advance. The groom and/or groomsmen generally seat the moms at more formal weddings.
Do you provide a sit-down dinner?
For most packages of over 20 guests, we provide tables, linens and place settings for a sit-down meal in our wedding tent through an approved caterer. Our smaller wedding receptions (under 20 guests) resemble a cocktail party, where guests mingle inside and sit in the parlor or dining room since there is not enough space inside to set up tables for all the guests.
Can we rent the entire inn and change the wedding time?
Due to wear and tear on the historic inn, we do not do whole house rentals for events.
Can we bring our own cake?
Yes. However, most people find that what we charge for the cake is far less than anywhere else since they are made in-house. In our experience, we have found that transporting the cake results in a melted or broken cake. Consider bringing a groom's cake if you have a specialty-type cake that you would like on your special day. Our cakes are decorated with flowers to match the bouquet, are made with buttercream icing (but look like fondant) and the fillings are all made from scratch. You can choose your filling: strawberry, raspberry, chocolate fudge, custard, pineapple or lemon.
Can we bring our own food?
We only allow food from our own kitchen or approved caterers, and only for specific wedding packages. (Ask us for details.)
Can we bring our own decorations?
The historic inn is elegantly appointed and we decorate the arch for outside weddings and fireplace mantel for inside weddings, so we ask that you don't bring decorations; however, you may bring in photos, favors, programs or something for the cake table, if you wish.
Do you provide cake or food tastings?
Unfortunately, due to the fact that we make everything fresh the day of the wedding, there aren't samples to taste.
Can we bring a cake topper?
Remember that the cakes have a six inch topper, so a small topper would work, such as the silver initials or heart, but anything beyond 3 to5 in tall is generally too large.
What kind of serving ware do you use?
We use vintage glass luncheon sets for the appetizers and punch, white china dessert plates for the cake, silver flatware, and glass champagne flutes. For plated dinners, we elegant glass plates.
Can we take the leftovers (if any)?
Unfortunately, due to health regulations, we can't allow leftovers to be taken from the inn, so eat up! We will, however, freeze the cake topper to send with the couple for their anniversary.
Where do we get the marriage license?
The marriage license must be obtained in Texas. There is a 72-hour waiting period unless one of the two are active military. The license can come from any county in Texas. There is also a waiver that can be purchased with a judge's signature if there is no way you can be in Texas prior to your wedding day. (Call the Bexar County Clerk of Courts for more details.)